WHERE ARE WE HEADING?
For every journey, there is a proposed destination; the destination is what will determine the route to follow and defines how the process will go.
No one begins a journey without having a destination in mind, nor does anyone allow a blind man to be his/her driver.
But when it comes to the subject of love and relationships a lot of people tend to go in without having a destination in mind.
You start it without proper preparation, and to worsen the whole situation you start it with someone that has the same problem as you.
“Two blind people leading each other will fall into a big pit”
If you do not leave your house without having a place to go in mind, and if you can not allow a blind man to drive you why then do you go into a romantic relationship without having a clear goal in mind?
Why will you choose to start it with someone who can not drive you to your desired goal end?
You start it without a clear goal in mind, and equally pick a blind person to take you both to an unknown destination.
This is the major reason for a lot of relationship woes and emotional breakdowns of so many young and old individuals.
Before you say “YES” to him or her make sure you know what you are signing up for and who you are signing in with.
The easiest way to experience a crisis in your love life is to have an undefined relationship with someone who might not be even going same life direction as you.
You might just wake up one morning and the person tells you they are getting married next weekend after successfully wasting your time.
It is what you make of your relationship that it becomes, this is to say, the kind of definition you receive from the person you are in a relationship with through the kind of energy they give you both in words and actions is what tells what their intentions are for you and how the relationship will be.
Never mistake attention for intention!
Never feel ashamed to ask questions and get clarity on what is going on.
Why me?
what do you want from me?
What is the goal of this friendship?
What are we doing?
Where is this relationship heading?
Asking these and many other questions at the appropriate time are not proof of your desperation; it does not mean you are desperate or foolish, it only shows you are wise enough and understand your position in life.
A wise man once said “ It is stupidity to remain silent when issues about your life are been decided without your permission”
Whoever you get involved with contributes greater to either the advancement of your life or the retrogression of your life; therefore is is very important to you carefully scan whoever is seeking to share life with you.
Whoever you choose most aligns with your life goals.
It takes two people who are going in the same direction in life to become a life partner.
If you feel too big or too ashamed to ask important questions, you will become too small to keep and easy to drop.